Getting Something off my chest

Can I say that the trend the last few years (I'd say the last three it's become so much more prevalent) of sanctimommies and articles to that fact annoy me?  If you don't know what a sanctimommy is here is the STFU website's definition of it:   parents explaining parenting to their childless friends.
And they do it in such a way as to be making a show of being morally superior to others (specifically us childless people).  

I just saw something pop up on my feed...a Huffington Post article called "5 Reasons I love my husband more after having a child".  Now I'm sure many women *DO* feel this way, but it's the trend of how it comes across - as if those of us without children can't possibly love our husbands as much or even understand the love - because of our lack of child.  PLEASE.  

Guess what?  That's just what YOU went through to strengthen your love.  It doesn't mean it's the only thing.  I have friend's going through and bravely fighting cancer - I bet facing that down by each others side has strengthened their love.  I know couples that made it through their child's untimely death - I bet that struggle sad and unique as it is can make you see and love your spouse in a different light.

As for me...the years of shooting myself with injection after injection and Jeff being in awe of my strength and resolve to *try* to have a child might be as strong as this article's author's husband's admiration for how hard it is to be a mother of a new born.  Jeff caring for me and being at my side during the hours of miscarrying our son - might mirror how her husband was at during her labor...only hers ended in joy and ours was cloaked in sadness.  Doesn't make the love less down-to-your-core amazing and help you fall further in love with your spouse.  

I guess what I'm ranting at - is do not belittle or undermine the sheer amount of different experiences each individual couple may go through, or each human has simply because it's not yours.  I truly do believe this woman has fallen further in love with her husband because of their child...but I have fallen in love more because of our lack of one.   One is not "more" than the other.  

*PLEASE NOTE - I'M NOT SAYING THIS ABOUT ANY OF MY FRIENDS THIS IS MORE THE ARTICLES OR NEWS STORIES TO THIS EFFECT.

And on that same trend...here is a clip from NBC's Tamron Hall trying to explain this thought on a broader scale of sanctimommies and how us without children are "less than" in their eyes.  I don't know if this will work - but if not go HERE

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