A difference of opinion

I think I have a difference of opinion than the several vocal posters on the bump that recently have talked about how they will be a better mother because of IF.  Will I be more appreciative? Of course!  I won't complain from morning sickness, back pain, etc during pregnancy because I fought long and hard to get PG.  And When my child throws a temper tantrum, or takes longer to potty train, or whatever - yes I will probably be more patient.  But overall a better mother?  I don't know if that's true.  Because I will be a mother, mainly modeled after my mother.  And she was and is absolutely wonderful.  She lives and dies with my brother & I's successes and failures.  She supports us and is our best cheerleader.  And she didn't deal with IF.  Admittedly, she had a m/c when they started TTC #2, and the doc told her the best way to get over it was to get PG again...Hello Kati!  That's how I was born.  But every pregnancy, she'd get KU within two or three months of trying.  But again, without dealing with IF - my mom was the mom all my friends were jealous of.  My house was the house we hung out at.  My mom was the mom my friends told their fights about their parents to.  And she'd listen.  And give advice.  And somehow come off as not judging - even though she usually agreed with what the parents were trying to say.  She just spoke teenager better I guess.  I talk to my mom four to five times a week.  I am possibly my mothers best friend.  I am now 34 and she is 62 - and she recently lost her job.  I hurts me that I can't give her a hug from far away.  She has been the best Mom, and I don't think you have to struggle through IF to be able to say that.   But that's just me, and my difference of opinion.