IUI #3 Canceled. Only two live sperm found

This mostly is taken straight from my post on 3T so if you've read that, you know this already.  So we went in at 11:30 for our scheduled IUI#3. And then they called us into the consult room...which I immediately thought - that's weird, normally we go into a treatment room. The nurse then informed us it was because with the sample they only found two live sperm. Two. Ffffuuuucccckkkkkk.
Unfortunately, many of you might remember my husband had health issues due to some severe allergic outbreak in October that caused him to be in the hospital twice and be put on a very high dose of steroids for three weeks. We were told that since sperm have a life of about 70 days, and it's been 88 days since his last dose (he tapered off) that it should be OK to go ahead this cycle (This was from the docs that treated him for the allergic reaction. We were stupid and didn't consult RE about it.) We had thought about getting another S/A done before starting this cycle...but since at that point it would have only been about 70 days we decided to skip it. Big Mistake!
Now we've wasted about $950 out of pocket for nothing. I'm still in pain from huge follies and nothing to do but wait. We ended up meeting with the RE and he first started saying because DH's numbers have gone down over the last year it looks like IVF is what we need. But once we explained about the steroids, he agreed we should make a an appointment with a new Uro (last time we saw one was July 2010, and it wasn't the one the RE suggested because that one is downtown about an hour away). And we should get an S/A done in about a month to see if it was just due to the steroids. And he had DH pee in a cup to see if it's some valve that can get "broken" and instead of making the sperm come out, it forces it into the bladder so he would instead pee out sperm. Weird...never heard of that one. So we'll hear later today if they found any sperm in his urine.
But now the plan is repeat S/A in one month, see new Uro in six weeks (or whenever we're able to get in but he figures with how popular this doc is, that's about the time frame). And if things improve from steroids being out for sure, cycle again in about two and a half cycles.
The only good thing, is being in a doctors office - we were given about five minutes for me to cry. And then I had to move on in order to talk to the doctor. Clearly I am devastated because I was really trying to work on positive thinking, and had told myself this was it. It was going to work. Only to not have a shot at all. But I've moved past the crying stage much faster than if I had been told this over the phone. Now I'm just very angry! Mad at the world. And that poor DH feels really like it's all his fault. His fault for having MFI. His fault for having gotten sick back in October. His fault for only two sperm and a canceled IUI. I've tried to tell him repeatedly that it's not like he purposefully did any of this, none of it is his fault. But I can see it's hard on him too...which just make my heart break more.
*And to Jezebell, thank you so much for the donated drugs. I hope you don't feel like they were wasted...I plan to use the rest if we're able to cycle again in two months. If not, because of low sperm issues again, I plan to donate them on to someone else before they expire.